Introduction
Dear family, I want to spend our time this morning reflecting on the power of our words and how they shape our community in Christ. Our speech is a reflection of our hearts, and as followers of Jesus, we are called to use our words to build up, encourage, and bring glory to God.
Consider David’s prayer from Psalm 19:14:
“May the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable to you, Lord, my rock and my Redeemer.”
The Biblical Standard for Speech
We’ve talked at length about how our deeds can please God; here, David reminds us that our words, too, can be pleasing to God.
In our world today, where sharp wit and cutting remarks are often celebrated, we must be vigilant in guarding our tongues and examining our hearts.
The apostle Paul exhorts us in Ephesians 4:29 (CSB): “No foul language should come from your mouth, but only what is good for building up someone in need, so that it gives grace to those who hear.”
Consider the Greek word used here – ‘sapros’ – meaning “rotten” or “worthless.” This paints a vivid picture of how God views speech that tears down rather than builds up. Our words should never be without value or purpose in the kingdom of God.
The Danger of Sarcasm
Now, I want to talk about sarcasm.
Most of us can probably remember Pastor Jeremy Rose saying more than once that sarcasm is never appropriate. The first time I heard this, it hit me as balm, and I was quick to receive it. Because I have a background where sarcasm is the primary form of communication, and I’m very well acquainted with its sting, how it tears people down, destroys intimacy, and dismantles trust.
Webster defines sarcasm as “a sharp and often satirical or ironic utterance designed to cut or give pain.” While it may seem harmless or even clever, sarcasm can be a subtle poison in our relationships.
Sarcasm is particularly insidious because it often masquerades as humor or wit. But in reality, it’s a form of verbal sleight of hand, a bait-and-switch that presents as light-hearted banter while delivering a hidden barb. It’s hostility disguised as humor, and at its core, it’s a form of deception.
Proverbs 26:24-25 (CSB) warns us: “A hateful person disguises himself with his speech and harbors deceit within. When he speaks graciously, don’t believe him, for there are seven abominations in his heart.”
When sarcasm becomes a habit, it erodes trust and creates an atmosphere of uncertainty. Even genuine compliments become suspect, as the recipient can’t help but search for hidden jabs or double meanings.
Instead of fostering true camaraderie, sarcasm often creates superficial connections based on shared negativity or mockery. But as followers of Christ, we’re called to a higher standard. Paul reminds us in Ephesians 4:25 (CSB): “Therefore, putting away lying, speak the truth, each one to his neighbor, because we are members of one another.”
Cultivating God-Honoring Speech
So how do we cultivate speech that honors God and builds up our brothers and sisters? Let’s turn to Philippians 4:8 (CSB) for guidance:
“Finally brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable—if there is any moral excellence and if there is anything praiseworthy—dwell on these things.”
While Paul is speaking about our thought life, these principles apply equally to our speech. Let’s briefly explore how we can apply each of these to our words:
- Whatever is true: Speak with honesty and integrity, avoiding exaggeration or distortion.
- Whatever is honorable: Use language that reflects respect for others and yourself.
- Whatever is just: Speak up for those who cannot speak for themselves and promote fairness.
- Whatever is pure: Keep your speech free from profanity and focus on wholesome topics.
- Whatever is lovely: Use words that bring beauty and harmony to relationships.
- Whatever is commendable: Offer words of encouragement and affirmation.
- Moral excellence: Let your speech reflect high ethical standards and Christ’s teachings.
- Praiseworthy: Use your words to glorify God and offer genuine compliments to others.
Practical Steps for Cultivating God-Honoring Speech
Knowing what we should do is only half the battle. I want to offer 3 practical steps we can take to cultivate speech that honors God and builds up our brothers and sisters:
- Cultivate the fruit of the Spirit through prayer and meditation: The fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. When our reflex is often sinful, self-control will help us put into practice Godly living and speech.
- Be Slow to Speak: Again, self-control will help us here. James 1:19 (CSB) advises, “My dear brothers and sisters, understand this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to anger.” Before speaking, pause and ask yourself: “Is what I’m about to say true, honorable, just, pure, lovely, and commendable?” This moment of reflection can help filter out potentially harmful words.
- Practice Affirmation: Make a conscious effort to speak words of encouragement and affirmation to others daily. Look for opportunities to build others up, as Paul instructs in 1 Thessalonians 5:11 (CSB): “Therefore encourage one another and build each other up as you are already doing.”
A Call to Edifying Speech
Beloved, let us commit to being a community where our words reflect the love and grace of Christ. Let us be known not for our clever comebacks or biting wit, but for our encouraging, uplifting, and truth-filled speech.
As we go forth from here, may we echo David’s prayer: “May the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable to you, Lord, my rock and my Redeemer.” Let us use our words to build bridges, not walls; to heal, not hurt; to uplift, not tear down.
In doing so, we not only honor God but also create a community that truly reflects His kingdom – a place where love, trust, and genuine fellowship can flourish. Amen.